Episode 38: How to be an adult with Ebonie Allard

Something a little different this week -we’re going back to an interview that was recorded just before the COVID crisis hit us. 

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Ebonie Allard, an award-winning life and business coach, author of Misfit to Maven: The Story of AARCH to AAHH and host of the popular podcast ‘Adulting with Ebonie’

We chat about how to live lives that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside which includes taking just the right amount of responsibility for yourself and for others. We discuss the control problems that people in high stakes, high stress jobs often have – either taking too much control or not enough control and think about the core values that will help us to filter all our decisions and determine what our success is in life. 

Once you know what your core values are, it becomes much easier to decide what to say ‘yes’ and what to say ‘no’ to. 

Ebonie’s three top pieces of advice are:

  1. Become curious about stuff in your life – without judgement
  2. Get clear on what you actually want. What are your needs? What are your desires?
  3. Know your BATNA (Best Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement). What’s your next best option if Plan A doesn’t look like it’s going to work…?

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Podcast links

Get the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here – https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/free-team-wellbeing-toolkit

Listen to Rachel’s interview on ‘Adulting with Ebonie’ here https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-fight-or-flight/

Here’s Ebonie’s podcast https://adultingwithebonie.com 

Find out about Ebonie’s work here https://ebonieallard.com 

Follow Ebonie on twitterhttps://twitter.com/ebonieallard?lang=en

Misfit to Maven: The story of AAGH to AAHH book 

View our recent Shapes Webinars on how to support your teams through the COVID crisis and sign up for the forthcoming webinar here https://www.shapestoolkit.com/support-your-team-webinar

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BMA Wellbeing Service – https://www.bma.org.uk/advice/work-life-support/your-wellbeing

The NHS Practitioner Health Programme – https://www.practitionerhealth.nhs.uk/

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Other Podcasts

Episode 47 – How to Have a Courageous Conversation

Rachel talks with Beccie D'Cunha about the conversations that we avoid and the conversations we really need to have with our colleagues, teams and managers. They can be described as difficult conversations, but we can redefine them as courageous conversations - because ultimately it takes courage for both parties to listen and be heard.

Episode 46 – Default to happy

Rachel talks with Dr Giles P Croft about his take on how to beat stress and burnout. Giles  is a psychology graduate and former NHS surgeon who stepped aside from clinical practice for a decade to explore a number of career paths, including health informatics, cycling journalism, public speaking and high street retail with his wife.

Episode 45 – Rest. The final frontier

Rachel is joined by Sheela Hobden, Professional Certified Coach, wellbeing expert and fellow Shapes Toolkit facilitator. We talk about why rest isn’t just important for wellbeing, but important for productivity and creativity too. 

Episode 40 – Leading with tough love with Gary Hughes

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Gary Hughes, author of the book Leadership in Practice, blogger, educator and facilitator who is a Practice Manager by day. We chat about how leadership in the COVID-19 crisis has had to adapt, and the different roles that a leader has had to take.

Episode 37 – How to manage conflict during COVID with Jane Gunn

Rachel is thrilled to welcome back Jane Gunn – lawyer, mediator and expert in conflict resolution who has been known as the Corporate Peacemaker. This episode is for you if the thought of addressing a difficult issue with one of your colleagues send you running for the hills…

Episode 20 – A creative solution to stress with Ruth Cocksedge

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Ruth Cocksedge a Practitioner Psychologist who started her career as a mental health nurse. She practices in Cambridge and has a particular interest in EMDR for PTSD and creative writing as a way to improve mental health and wellbeing.

Episode 11 – The magical art of reading sweary books

In this episode, Rachel is joined once again by Dr Liz O’Riordan, the ‘Breast Surgeon with Breast Cancer’, TEDx speaker, author, blogger, triathlete and all round superstar who has been nominated for ‘Woman of the Year’.

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