Episode 38: How to be an adult with Ebonie Allard

Something a little different this week -we’re going back to an interview that was recorded just before the COVID crisis hit us. 

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Ebonie Allard, an award-winning life and business coach, author of Misfit to Maven: The Story of AARCH to AAHH and host of the popular podcast ‘Adulting with Ebonie’

We chat about how to live lives that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside which includes taking just the right amount of responsibility for yourself and for others. We discuss the control problems that people in high stakes, high stress jobs often have – either taking too much control or not enough control and think about the core values that will help us to filter all our decisions and determine what our success is in life. 

Once you know what your core values are, it becomes much easier to decide what to say ‘yes’ and what to say ‘no’ to. 

Ebonie’s three top pieces of advice are:

  1. Become curious about stuff in your life – without judgement
  2. Get clear on what you actually want. What are your needs? What are your desires?
  3. Know your BATNA (Best Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement). What’s your next best option if Plan A doesn’t look like it’s going to work…?

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Podcast links

Get the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here – https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/free-team-wellbeing-toolkit

Listen to Rachel’s interview on ‘Adulting with Ebonie’ here https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-fight-or-flight/

Here’s Ebonie’s podcast https://adultingwithebonie.com 

Find out about Ebonie’s work here https://ebonieallard.com 

Follow Ebonie on twitterhttps://twitter.com/ebonieallard?lang=en

Misfit to Maven: The story of AAGH to AAHH book 

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