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Do you look forward to Christmas holidays or other family celebrations only to be disappointed that reality is not what you had hoped it would be? Or has life not worked out as expected, and you’re struggling with regrets and disappointment? How do we deal with feeling disappointed, especially with the upcoming holidays?
In this 2022 Christmas Special of You Are Not A Frog, executive coach and relationship expert Corrina Gordon-Barnes joins us to explain several approaches to dealing with life’s disappointments. She builds on her years of experience as an executive coach and relationship expert to share the value of self-compassion and give simple tools we can use to turn disappointment into a learning experience.
If you’re perpetually being disappointed every holiday season, this episode might be for you!
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Listen to Corrina’s previous episodes:
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? with Corrina Gordon-Barnes
- How to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive with Rob Bell
The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward by Daniel Pink
About the guests
Dr Corrina Gordon-Barnes, CPCC, is an Executive Coach and Trainer at Wild Monday. Her expertise is coaching new managers in time management and giving effective feedback. Together with The Hobbs Consultancy, she also delivers training in miscarriage awareness and fertility treatment awareness to help managers and colleagues be more supportive of colleagues going through significant life events.
Corrina is passionate about seeing workplaces where colleagues speak honestly, give and receive feedback gracefully, and act with integrity. She believes these environments make it much easier to be innovative and effective, hit deadlines, and create the most powerful impact.
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Reasons to listen
- Learn the value of self-compassion to overcome being disappointed.
- Find out why bad experiences can actually be good motivators.
- Get practical tips on how to handle disappointment (and other negative emotions!)
Episode highlights
Disappointed During Holidays
Practising Your ‘Scripts’ and ‘Dances’
The Power of Requests
Handle Expectations, Prevent Being Disappointed
Embracing Feeling Disappointed and Negative Emotions
Finding Self-Compassion
The Value of Regret
Top Three Tips to Handle Being Disappointed
Episode transcript
Corrina Gordon Barnes: I’d like to say that expectations are premeditated resentments. I also think they’re premeditated disappointments as well. I’ve learned to radically switch my expectations. Again, because I am a natural optimist idealist, I’ll always envisage things being the best, and then all I’ve got to go from there is really to be disappointed. Whereas my wife is very, very handy as a partner because she will tend to see the perceived problems. That’s just how her mind works. It’s a different way of looking at things. This is actually a concept in psychology called counterfactual thinking. What…
