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20th November, 2024

How to Avoid Guilt on Repeat

With Dr Sarah Coope

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So many of us feel guilty for things we can’t control – it weighs us down and keeps us from setting healthy boundaries. Instead of worrying about the things we can’t influence, we need to focus on what’s within our control.

Easier said than done.

But carrying guilt for things we can’t change isn’t helpful. Instead, we need to be clear about our responsibilities and set boundaries where needed.

When we don’t, we risk overfunctioning – doing more while noticing how little it feels those around us are doing. We can end up taking on responsibilities that aren’t ours, which is a big contributor to burnout.

This episode is an invitation to take a moment so you can reflect on situations where you feel guilty. Ask yourself “What can I control here?” Focus on taking those steps, and give yourself permission and grace to release anything that isn’t yours to carry.

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Reasons to listen

  • For strategies to manage feelings of guilt over things beyond your control
  • To improve communication and conflict resolution skills
  • To help you find joy and work within your zone of genius

Episode highlights

00:03:37

The Zone of Power

00:07:40

Why we feel guilty for things we can’t control

00:14:49

The danger of overfunctioning

00:19:09

The value of being heard and understood

00:22:17

Where to get support in a psychologically unsafe environment

00:31:57

The resistance to resilience

00:33:26

Relighting after burnout

00:44:52

Introducint FrogXtra

00:50:26

Resource recommendations

Episode transcript

[00:00:00] Rachel: Welcome to a very special bonus episode. This is our very first q and a session with, um, me. I’m Rachel Morris, I’m host of the You Are Not a Frog podcast, and also with me I have, uh, Dr. Sarah Coope. Now, Sarah has joined me in World Monday, which I’m really excited about. Sarah, just, just introduce yourself and tell us what your role is now. [00:00:23] Sarah: Yeah, I will do. Thank you Rachel, it’s great to be here. So I’m so excited. I’m working more closely with you now as Director of Training at…

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