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So many of us feel guilty for things we can’t control – it weighs us down and keeps us from setting healthy boundaries. Instead of worrying about the things we can’t influence, we need to focus on what’s within our control.
Easier said than done.
But carrying guilt for things we can’t change isn’t helpful. Instead, we need to be clear about our responsibilities and set boundaries where needed.
When we don’t, we risk overfunctioning – doing more while noticing how little it feels those around us are doing. We can end up taking on responsibilities that aren’t ours, which is a big contributor to burnout.
This episode is an invitation to take a moment so you can reflect on situations where you feel guilty. Ask yourself “What can I control here?” Focus on taking those steps, and give yourself permission and grace to release anything that isn’t yours to carry.
Show links
More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:
- Surprising Ways to Avoid Burnout – Episode 188 With Nick Petrie
- How to Avoid Burnout on Repeat – Episode 160, with Dr Claire Ashley
- What to Do When a Colleague isn’t Pulling Their Weight – Episode 219, with Dr Clare Sieber
About the guests
Dr Sarah Coope is a GP and senior medical educator at Medical Protection. She has a background as a portfolio GP and has extensive experience in coaching doctors in training. Additionally, Dr Sarah has undertaken the Health Education (Deanery) coaching course. As a trainer, she guides doctors applying for consultant posts from the interview to choosing a specialisation.
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Reasons to listen
- For strategies to manage feelings of guilt over things beyond your control
- To improve communication and conflict resolution skills
- To help you find joy and work within your zone of genius
Episode highlights
The Zone of Power
Why we feel guilty for things we can’t control
The danger of overfunctioning
The value of being heard and understood
Where to get support in a psychologically unsafe environment
The resistance to resilience
Relighting after burnout
Introducint FrogXtra
Resource recommendations
Episode transcript
[00:00:00] Rachel: Welcome to a very special bonus episode. This is our very first q and a session with, um, me. I’m Rachel Morris, I’m host of the You Are Not a Frog podcast, and also with me I have, uh, Dr. Sarah Coope. Now, Sarah has joined me in World Monday, which I’m really excited about. Sarah, just, just introduce yourself and tell us what your role is now. [00:00:23] Sarah: Yeah, I will do. Thank you Rachel, it’s great to be here. So I’m so excited. I’m working more closely with you now as Director of Training at…