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We can learn how to say no to other people, but often don’t say no to ourselves or to our inner critic who’s always telling us we can do more or be better. We become our own worst enemy when it comes to setting boundaries and prioritising our own needs. This is why we need self-compassion, and to overcome the toxic self-talk that often fuels our negative self-talk.
In this quick dip, Rachel will help you name the critical voice and acknowledge its presence, explore the underlying triggers and needs that contribute to self-criticism, and treat yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would a close friend.
When we pay too much attention to our inner critic, we risk feeling more stressed, putting strain on our relationships, and overall negatively impacting our wellbeing. So it’s time to challenge that negative self-talk and replace it with compassionate. No only will it benefit you, but it’ll benefit those close to you, too.
Show links
More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:
- What to Do When You Can Never Do Enough as a Working Mum – Episode 174, with With Corrina Gordon-Barnes
- How to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’ – Episode 196 with Charlotte Housden
- The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do it Well) – Episode 117, with Dr Claire Kaye
Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
Reasons to listen
- To discover the impact of toxic self-talk and how it affects our relationships and self-perception.
- To explore the importance of self-compassion and its role in enhancing relationships and personal growth.
- For practical tips and techniques for dealing with your inner critic and cultivating self-kindness.
Episode highlights
Toxic self-talk
Self-compassion
Shame
Boss bitch
When our amygdala goes too far
Motivating with the stick, not the carrot
Episode transcript
[00:00:00] Rachel: I’ve been talking a lot recently about how to say no and deal with pushback. And in my head, it’s always been about how to say no to other people. And I’ve realized recently that actually the person I struggled to say no to the most is myself. It’s not in fact, anybody else. [00:00:18] And I know, lots of you will be thinking right now, Yeah but actually they’re the ones asked me to do this and my contract says this and it’s the patients that are coming in and the management tell me I need to…
