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We’re often held back by the lies we tell ourselves. The three most common are “I am what I have”, “I am what people say about me”, and “I am what I do”. These lies create a false sense of identity and can lead to anxiety, fear, and self-rejection.
In this quick dip episode, Rachel offers practical strategies to combat feelings of inadequacy and to deal with our fixation on what people say about us. This can help us create a healthier self-perception and better resilience, but it’s not without its challenges.
The lies we tell ourselves are deeply ingrained and can be hard to shake off. The longer we let them dictate our lives, the more damage they can cause. Our mental health, relationships, and overall wellbeing are at stake.
But by recognising those lies when they crop up in our thoughts, and taking some simple steps to combat them, we can stop comparing ourselves to others and worrying about what they say, focus on what’s working well in our lives, and remember that we don’t need to earn our rest.
Show links
More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:
- What Shame Made Me Do – Episode 200 with Dr Sandy Miles
- How to Get Out of a Toxic Shame Spiral – Episode 204 with Dr Rachel Morris
- Surprising Ways to Avoid Burnout – Episode 188 with Nick Petrie
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Reasons to listen
- To learn about the three fundamental lies that can threaten our resilience and wellbeing, and how to overcome them
- To understand the detrimental impact of societal expectations and self-perception on our mental health
- To discover practical strategies to combat feelings of inadequacy.
Episode highlights
Practising necessary care
I am what I have
Focusing on what you’re grateful for
I am what people say about me
People remember how you made them feel
I am what I do
Having multiple identities
Your life is more precious than what you do
You are enough
Episode transcript
[00:00:00] Rachel: Have you ever made a decision and then come back on it almost immediately because you’re so worried about what other people might think, what they might say about you? You just feel so guilty, you feel like you’re not doing your job properly, you’re worried you might dump on colleagues. We’ve all been there. [00:00:15] Now many people think that the main threat to our resilience and wellbeing is our workload and our lack of time. And maybe sometimes I lack of knowledge about what to do. But I think people have got this wrong. Because I…
