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We often judge ourselves and others based on ideas of right and wrong. but this can keep us from making decisions that’ll help us thrive. Our internalised judgments and fear of making the wrong decision can prevent us from living authentically and pursuing what truly works for us.
It’s time for us to shift our perspective from right or wrong to what works and what doesn’t. This gives us the chance to focus on behaviours that help us thrive without us being bogged down by judgment. It frees us to experiment, learn from what doesn’t work, and adapt without self-criticism.
It starts with us recognising our internal judgments and letting go of them. We need to focus on behaviours and choices that align with our values and bring us fulfilment. We can do this by asking ourselves if a decision or action works for us, rather than if it is right or wrong. This reframes our thought process and reduces internal conflict.
When we cling to the idea of right and wrong, we risk making decisions based on fear and external judgment. This can lead us down paths that aren’t right for us, where at the end is a sense of feeling trapped by what society or our upbringing expects of us.
In this quick dip, Rachel explores new approaches to decision-making that aren’t based on fear of failure, and that recognise how each step is a learning experience. By meeting ourselves in the field beyond right and wrong, we create more freedom and authenticity for ourselves.
Show links
More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:
- How Money Holds Us Back – Episode 213 with Agnes Otzelberger
- How to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’ – Episode 196 with Charlotte Housden
- How to Make the Right Choice When You Aren’t Certain – Episode 244 with Dr Claire Plumbly
Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.
Reasons to listen
- To discover how letting go of “right and wrong” judgments can lead to more freedom and authenticity at home and in work
- To learn how shifting focus to what works and what doesn’t can transform decision-making and reduce stress
- To understand the impact of internalised judgments on behaviour, and how to navigate them for a more fulfilling life
Episode highlights
The judgements we internalise growing up
Moving past shame
Failing 300 times
SAS instincts
Kindness as a survival mechanism
Children of wrath
Understanding yourself to understand what’s right and wrong
The biggest sin in healthcare
Episode transcript
[00:00:00] Rachel: Last year, I was at a conference and I attended a workshop around money mindset. Now we know resources are tight in the NHS, we know that the cost of living crisis is rising, we also know that we can feel a lot of anxiety around money. And I run my own organization since I stopped working as a GP. And so money has become something slightly different to me. I need it to keep the podcast going. I need to be able to pay. All the team members, they help edit the podcast and get the training…
