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It’s nice to be nice – but that niceness is stopping teams from dealing with healthy conflict when it comes up. This leads to poor decisions, hidden resentments, and a lack of accountability. When we’re afraid of conflict, we don’t say what we really think, and problems stay hidden.
In this quick dip episode, Rachel explains how building trust and encouraging healthy conflict is an essential skill for leaders in high-stakes jobs like healthcare. Trust and psychological safety allow us to be vulnerable and speak up without fear – and we can build trust by getting to know each other better and showing empathy.
When we avoid conflict instead of addressing it, meetings become box-ticking exercises and decisions don’t get followed through on. People can start backbiting and forming factions, all of which leads to a dysfunctional team where nothing gets done.
But we can start creating environments where healthy conflict is encouraged, by establishing trust. Talk to someone you usually don’t chat with – ask how they’re doing and share something personal about yourself. This helps build trust and makes it easier to have honest conversations later.
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More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:
- How to Put Your Team Back Together – Episode 225, with James Spice
- How to Tell People What You REALLY Think – Episode 211, with Lasy Lawless
- How to Do Conflict Well – Episode 23, with Jane Gunn
Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.
Reasons to listen
- To understand how avoiding conflict in teams can lead to poor decisions and hidden resentments
- To learn how building trust and psychological safety can create healthy conflict and better team performance
- To discover practical techniques for encouraging honest conversations and resolving disagreements within teams
Episode highlights
A team where no-one upsets anyone
Psychological safety
Fear of conflict
Avoiding accountability
Inattention to results
Tools for better conflict
Episode transcript
[00:00:00] Rachel: If you are a professional in a high stakes job and you can’t just clock out at the end of the day, it’s likely that you are also a leader in some capacity. So whether it’s leading a team, line managing people, you might be head of your department, but you’ll probably be supervising trainees. You may be mentoring people, you may be a trainer maybe in charge of various committees, so you will be leading in one way, shape or form. I always think that if you are a doctor or a nurse or a physiotherapist or…